Bentley’s of the world. They’re everywhere. I wish I could say Bentley is a once-in-a-blue-moon kind of guy, but the truth is, I’ve run into one, my girlfriends have run into one, and I’m willing to bet you have as well. Think you haven’t? Imagine this scenario:
Girl goes to a bar. Girl runs into cute, funny Guy that she has fun with, laughs with, flirts with. Guy charms the Girl. Girl and Guy exchange numbers. Guy texts Girl right after they part ways, only continuing to charm Girl. Girl and Guy text the rest of the weekend, leaving Girl thinking “where has Guy been all my life?!” Girl and Guy meet for dinner during the week. Girl and Guy text and chat all week. Girl and Guy meet up the next weekend. Girl, completely charmed by Guy and feeling very comfortable with him, goes home with Guy. Girl and Guy hook up. Girl and Guy say bye the next morning with Girl on cloud 9. Girl then doesn’t hear from Guy. Girl only gets one word text responses from Guy. Guy becomes “slammed at work”. Girl and Guy stop talking. Girl doesn’t see Guy. Weeks, maybe months, go by until Girl sees Guy again. The night Girl and Guy reunite he begins to charm Girl again and, feeling like everything is “back to normal” with Guy, Girl hook ups with Guy. Girl then doesn’t hear from Guy. And so goes the vicious cycle.
Let him walk away!
See…yes, you have run into a Bentley. The “benefit” of running into a Bentley in the real world is that we don’t see the other side of the conversation. We don’t hear him tell his friends that we are just a girl he hangs out with every once and a while, we don’t hear him say he’s looking for someone more attractive, we don’t know he wishes he could find someone “better” to occupy his time with. The reason why I put benefit in quotations is because it really isn’t a benefit to not see the other side of the coin. Sometimes women just don’t get the hint when a guy doesn’t respond to texts, doesn’t return calls and doesn’t want to hang out. And often times the reason women don’t get the hint is because avoided texts/calls/meet-ups are accompanied by an excuse that leads women to believe it isn’t them…“slammed at work”, “friends/family in town”, “not feeling well”, “broke/lost my phone”, “in an area without cell service”, “busy” or the Bentley line “I miss my daughter”. Sometimes we need to hear the negative before we can cut the guy loose, before we give up on the “dot-dot-dot”. Telling the truth, while it may hurt more than a sugar-coated good-bye, is what women deserve to hear…not some made up excuse. Guys trust me, you leaving a woman will not ruin her life. She can and will move on. Don’t flatter yourself by thinking she will never be able to get over you telling her she isn’t what you are looking for.
These guys are everywhere. And they suck. And we suck for letting a cycle like this start. I know I am extremely guarded with my heart and that has a tendency to reveal who the Bentley’s are and who are worth my time. After all, If I’m not careful with it, why would anyone else be?
Anyone have good ways of pinpointing the Bentley’s of the world? Have you or a girlfriend run into one? Have an AWESOME story on how you caught one and revealed his evil scheme?! Please share!!