How many times have we asked for advice and then thrown it to the wind to do either the exact opposite or what we had wanted to do before we got the advice? I’m notorious for this and I’m sure you all are as well. I am excellent at giving advice…for some reason I know exactly what to say to my friends. Need to know what text to send to a new flame? I got your answer. Need to know what to say when you have to confront the guy who has suddenly gone rogue? Honey, get a pen, and start taking notes. But when it comes to figuring out my own life…that’s a totally different story.
A girlfriend called me the other day to talk about a guy that had pursued her for about a month, talked to her every day, given her plenty of attention and then suddenly pulled the “I’m horrible at relationships” line and disappeared from her life. There wasn’t a single point in this relationship that she mentioned wanting to be serious, wanting to settle down, or needing him to commit. In her mind, it was a budding friendship that had a possibility of turning into something more and she was excited to see where it went.
What advice I gave her isn’t important. But what is important is that we all search for validation. Search for someone to tell us we are doing things right or we haven’t lost our minds. I hope if you ever get to a point in which you seek out advice, the advice given to you causes you to look no further than within yourself. You are you and you are amazing. Be strong, be beautiful and know that you have it all. After all, if you don’t see yourself shining, no one else will.
Hopefully my stories I share will help you realize that you aren’t alone…and if mine don’t, head on over to this blog and maybe my friend Ashley can help